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Conquer Yourself Overcome doubt, fear, and anxiety By Rebekah Harkness Yes, we are all human, and that typically insinuates mistakes, failure, disappointment, and emotional havoc. It is easy for us to dwell on our shortcomings and imperfections, but in order to reach your full potential, your focus and energy must be moving towards becoming more than just human. You have a unique opportunity in this universe to create your reality and determine your future. You are not a robot, but rather a divine being with the freedom of choice, and each choice you make is shaping your present moment as well as your future. Video You are that infamous x-factor that you have been looking for all your life. The power is in your hands, but there are three human obstacles that you need to overcome in order to reach your full potential, namely doubt, fear, and anxiety. These obstacles apply to all of us regardless of our circumstances. They are simply a part of life and a part of our human experience. Your ability to overcome them will determine the quality of your life, your level of happiness, and your ability to reach your full potential. Doubt, fear, and anxiety may feel a bit different on the surface, but they have many things in common in terms of where and how they originate. Doubt arises due to a lack of self-esteem, a lack of faith, and very little self-confidence. Fear is often our reaction to the unknown. Danger and failure lurk in the unknown, right? Perhaps - but we tend to over-associate danger with the unknown, and our fear of failure paralyzes us indefinitely. Again, lack of faith and self-confidence are key drivers behind fear. We tend to feel too safe in our habits and routines, and anything beyond that elicits a feeling of fear and anxiety. The anxiety builds as we start questioning the outcome and we align our expectations with negativity and impending doom. Our mind races as it contemplates various outcomes, but each mental outcome ends in negativity. What if I fail? What if I lose my friends? What if I get hurt? What if people laugh at me? What if they don’t like me? What if the sky falls? The list goes on and on. Again, these feelings of doubt, fear, and anxiety are a part of our human experience, but there are three things that you can do in order to minimize their influence on your life and your results. First, increase your level of self-awareness. Be willing to take the time and energy to recognize when feelings of doubt, fear, or anxiety arise. Simply recognize and observe these moments. When you have time to reflect, be willing to ask yourself some tough questions. What sparked these feelings of insecurity? Was there a real threat of danger or was it only perceived? Look for patterns. Is there a commonality in the situations that bring out this lack of confidence and doubt? Does it stem from a belief that you hold about yourself? Where did the belief come from? Is this belief valid and are you willing to change it? After you have taken some time to reflect on these things, it is important to then take action and reconstruct the beliefs that are feeding these negative emotions. Second, develop faith in yourself and in your life purpose. Faith is defined as being sure of what you hope for and certain of what you do not see. Faith is driven by a subtle, yet confident, power of knowing who you are and where you are going. It is single-pointed in its nature and its energy is concentrated in one direction and one outcome. Fear and anxiety is simply misdirected faith. A lack of faith creates fear, doubt, and anxiety and allows an acceptance that the outcome you are looking for might not occur. This lack of direction and concentration dissipates the energy and weakens the potential of your desired outcome. Faith is what gets you off the couch. Faith allows you to harness your emotional energy in a focused direction and therefore increase your level of activity and purpose. There is the saying, “Faith without works is dead.” To state that more accurately, works without faith is dead. Faith is the fuel that motivates you to do the work. Develop this within yourself and the level of fear and uncertainty that you experience on a daily basis will lessen and become insignificant. Third, expect the best. Get rid of all of those ‘what if’ questions that end in misery or negativity and replace them with positive outcomes. What if you do land your dream job? What if you do catch that break? What if they do really like you? Have a joyful expectancy of the very best. Don’t allow yourself to welcome or consider an outcome that you don’t want. For some of us, this is a complete 180 degree mindset shift, and it takes a lot of effort. Each time your mind wants to consider a negative outcome, quickly replace it with an outcome you want. This is an example of proactive thinking. Remember, you have the power to guide your thoughts. Guide them into positive outcomes and happy expectations. Take control of your human tendencies and overcome them through self-knowledge, faith, and joyful expectancy. The life of your dreams is waiting for you just past the horizon of doubt, fear, and anxiety. PE Rebekah Harkness is the Director of Operations at the University of Utah Health Plans. She is the author of The Bliss Balance and Turning the Tide Call 801-587-2633 Visit www.rebekahharkness.com Email r.harkness@hsc.utah.edu 23 Personal Excellence essentials presented by HR.com | 06.2014


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